There is truth in the old saying, “You can’t truly love someone until you love yourself.” You can fall in love without having a sense of self love, but you won’t be able to properly handle a romantic relationship. Having self love requires you to honor the deepest parts of your soul. This pursuit should ask you to dive into shadow work to understand your triggers and “darker” qualities; yet, all parts deserve love equally.
Self awareness of your own wants and needs is key to being able to succeed in love. Your definition of love may differ from your partner’s idea. When you understand and honor your needs, it becomes easier to notice when a partnership isn’t giving you what you truly need. Also, it becomes simpler to ascertain if you are ready and able to give the object of your affection what he or she desires in return. Self awareness creates the power to set correct intentions for getting what you want. After all, the world responds to your intentions. We get what we ask for, and if we don’t know what we truly want, the result could lead to complications.
Get to know all sides of yourself, even the dark bits that may seem “unlovable” and learn to cherish the entirety of YOU. Awareness can lead to self love. When you learn to cherish yourself, the right person will enter the picture as a direct reflection of your internal unconditional love. Spend time alone. Reflect about what you want to contribute to the right partnership. What do you require to feel safe, loved and valued? Journal about the way you want to feel. Get specific as the Universe responds to specifics. Treat yourself well and be ready to receive.
